I cannot wait to see the gender demographics of who is visiting this post.
One of the most important lessons I have ever learned is that males and females are simply wired differently. Though there are obviously exceptions to the rule, for the most part, males tend to think more rationally and analytically where females tend to place emphasis on feelings and might be a bit more impulsive. Just for some scientific acknowledgment, here's some things I found via Google search which led me to Psychology Today:
1. "Females often have a larger hippocampus, our human memory center. Females also often have a higher density of neural connections into the hippocampus. As a result, girls and women tend to input or absorb more sensorial and emotive information than males do."
2. "Females tend to have verbal centers on both sides of the brain, while males tend to have verbal centers on only the left hemisphere. This is a significant difference. Girls tend to use more words when discussing or describing incidence, story, person, object, feeling, or place. Males not only have fewer verbal centers in general but also, often, have less connectivity between their word centers and their memories or feelings."
3. "The female brain, in part thanks to far more natural blood flow throughout the brain at any given moment (more white matter processing), and because of a higher degree of blood flow in a concentrationpart of the brain called the cingulate gyrus, will often ruminate on and revisit emotional memories more than the male brain."
If you didn't feel like reading all of those quotes or were simply turned off by the word "hippocampus," I'll summarize by saying girls' brains tend to focus on senses, emotions, and memories before males' brains which focus more on immediate analysis. Is this science behind this really all that surprising to you? I know for me it wasn't, I just needed some fancy words to make it seem legit.
So what does this mean? It means that sometimes I am pouting in the corner for reasons that mentally register as being overdramatic and stupid but the orange cup you used reminded me of my younger sister's ex-boyfriend's dog and you should have realized that made me feel upset but the fact that you didn't makes me even more upset. To top it all off, the fact that I know that this is an absolutely ridiculous reason to feel frustrated with someone is making me feel even worse. Emotions are fun.
So maybe this is all bullshit but maybe realizing this well help some people understand the importance of compromise and patience. Females, we have to start being more considerate about the fact that the way guys think often does not involve a ton of emphasis on emotions. They do not connect feelings to their words as often as we do and have a harder time discussing how they feel. Males, instead of calling ladies "psycho," try to understand that her brain is literally registering a lot of sensory information as emotional. Side note, there's this thing called estrogen but that's a different story for a different time.
This doesn't have to only apply to males/females. At work we take the StrengthsFinder Assessment and that has also really helped open my mind to the fact that, as human beings, we are all wired a little differently. We are told this so often but I don't think many people really take the time to let it resonate. You don't have to think the way someone else does but having an understanding that things might register differently with them can go a long way. Maybe if more people stopped to think about this before they acted, the world would be a lot nicer, perceptive, and forgiving.
P.S. There are ants literally EVERYWHERE in my house and I have been so good about cleaning and not keeping food out as well as putting traps out. ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP THIS POOR COLLEGE KID WHO DOESN'T UNDERSTAND HOW TO ADULT.
